Compass Readings, 07-29-11
You don’t need me to tell you that we live in a complex world. We work hard at establishing routines, patterns, and perspectives that help us manage the complexities, that give us some illusion of control. Until they don’t work...or you run into something that doesn’t fit, that demands you re-think everything. Volunteers at the Center sometimes find themselves and their assumptions about life challenged or at least further complicated by other realities.
A desk minister who volunteers on a weekly basis writes, Let me tell you about last Thursday. As we opened the library, several of the guys said they missed me the previous week, and D - who does a lot of preaching about the coming judgment - told me that he was glad I was there because he got into trouble when I wasn't. (I don't know.) Then R(1) came in and told me about his girl friend who is pregnant and wanting to give up the baby to the state, but he wants custody. He is a smart guy who was planning to go to CPCC in the fall; now he's going to be raising a child. Then there was R(2) who was drunk and nearly out of control. I should have gone across the street to get the police officer.
Then S. in her wheelchair was on the computer. When I told her it was time to go she whispered to me that she had just had an accident and needed to go to bathroom. My co-worker and one of the guys got her out of the building - no small feat without a ramp - and took her over to the other building to go to the bathroom and change - he never knew what had happened. I had to mop up the floor before another person could use the computer.
Oh, one other thing I forgot – R(1), the father-to-be, lost his job because his address was the Men’s Shelter and the boss said "he'd had problems with someone with that address before.
I'm not sure why I told you that whole tale except to say, this is no picnic in the park. As you know, it is really sad, unfixable life…I’ll see you next week.
It’s not about fixing, as she well knows. It’s about being with people, honoring their reality with open hands and heart, about building relationships present-tense. Which makes the world much more complicated for problem-solving, results-oriented folks.
And, as one of our counselors discovered, the complex realities which challenged some of his assumptions about how life works also opened him to other realities. He writes,
Discovering diversity bias is one of the main perks of UMC ! A rite of passage of sort. When we started Artworks I believed it would be a cute idea. I then had to examine my presumption that artistic talent and poverty were mutually exclusive. Yesterday, I noticed another such moment. I was waiting in line at O'Hare and stood behind two women. One had neon pink hair, and another wore a burkha and stood with her family. I felt more uneasy about the burkha than about the unnatural hair. What could more natural ( or American) than expressing one's spiritual beliefs? I then read the message on her husband's T-shirt. It said, "My name is considered a nation security risk - how's yours working for you?" Incidentally the woman was summarily searched as she went through screening. I walked through without delay, albeit a little less righteous.
What if the assumptions and solutions that work in your world were shown to have limits? The rich man on his knees before Jesus, asking what he must do to “inherit” eternal life, was confronted with a reality for which he was not prepared: “Go, sell what you have, and give to the poor, and you will have treasure in heaven; and come follow me.”(Mark 10.21-2) And he got up and walked away.
How much reality can you bear? How far are you willing to be stretched? The Center is a great place to find out.